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I am a tall, large-framed female who has large calves, so I "get it" for not only being big-boned, but my calves are large on top of that. Both problems are inherited, my dad had a large frame and huge calves, and one of his sisters is large framed with big calves, which they inherited from their mother. My one brother is average frame, height and has normal calves, my other brother is taller, larger framed and has huge calves.

When I was a child my calves were not large, but puberty triggered it for me. When I was in 6th grade, I was told I had nice legs (they were getting a little shapely), but by 8th grade, my calves were getting larger and continued growing in high school.

I am now 48 years old and would love to have the surgery. I am telling you that I've been made fun of being large framed and large calved since high school! I "get it" from total strangers, 99% of harassment is from women, but I've had to endure comments from guys mostly made within earshot but not directly to me.I had a pretty face when I was younger and I'd heard that there were guys who liked me, but couldn't deal with my huge calves and they had said no woman should have legs like that. Alot of people have contempt for me, because of large frame and large calves. The cruel comments I hear now are that I am like a cavewoman or Neanderthal. We most recently moved to WI and when I was out mowing the lawn for the first time in May, the next door neighbor lady (who has a voice that carries) said to her husband about me, "I wonder what happened to her legs!" He told her it was probably inherited.

I got married later in life and have a daughter, and my biggest fear is she will have inherited the large frame and develop large calves. She is skinny and 9, but her legs have more tone than her friends and she is tall. Women have commented within earshot that they think she will be large framed like me. I wanted to use egg donor to get pregnant, but my husband didn't want to. He told me he didn't think I would be able to deal with a child that wasn't mine biologically, but it would've given me piece of mind, not having a large framed, big calved daughter because I wouldn't wish what I've had to endure from people from high school and beyond.

My dad had two sisters, one normal build and the other large framed, large calved. My relatives were talking about how my Aunt with the large frame/calves was lucky to have two girlfriends from childhood through adult life to support her and protect her from the bullying behavior of others and they said my aunt has a mouth on her, which she does. She probably had to become that way, so people would leave her alone. My normal framed/normal calf aunt was a nicer person, but then again she never "got it" from others because she didn't lose on the DNA roulette wheel of life.

While most of you seem to have a normal build other than your calves, I would say that if you have the time for recovery and the money, it would be well worth getting the surgery while you are young. I don't know if people are as hard on you as they are on me, but if you get teased or harassed now in your youth for it, it might continue when you get married and have kids because women might "give it to you" at storytime, dance recitals,ball games etc. or they might just talk about it as if you are some kind of freak and not want anything to do with you and it won't matter how nice a person you are or how good a friend you are to someone, because there will always be popular women at those events who build themselves up and impress others by tearing someone down, and if you have a large frame and/or large calves, you are a prme target. I wore shorts to my daughter's gymnastics a couple of weeks ago, and the women sitting behind me said in their conversation to each other that they wondered why I would wear shorts to let them know what kind of legs I have and that I should wear long pants all the time. (That's how bad it is!)